Menasehati Itu Bukan dengan Menyindir di Publik

We all need advice and advice to each other. Sometimes we give advice and sometimes we are advised, but we need to remember that the main purpose of advising is to want goodness and improve what is being advised. As in the hadith,

ﺍﻟﺪِّﻳﻦُ ﺍﻟﻨَّﺼِﻴﺤَﺔُ

"Religion is advice(HR. Muslim).

Ibn Atsir explained,

ﻧَﺼﻴﺤﺔ ﻋﺎﻣّﺔ ﺍﻟﻤﺴﻠﻤﻴﻦ : ﺇﺭﺷﺎﺩُﻫﻢ ﺇﻟﻰ ﻣﺼﺎﻟِﺤِﻬﻢ

"The advice for the Muslims is to give instructions for their benefit.[An-Nihayah 5/142]

We also need to remember that the main adab of advising is that the original law is private (secretly, not in public) and by using soft and touching words, not harsh words and sarcasm.

Imam Ash-Shafi'i explained that advice in public (without any excuse that allows it) is an insult, it is not advice. He rahimahullah said:

تعمدني بنصحك في انفرادي** وجنبْني النصيحة في الجماعهْ

فإن النصح بين الناس نوع** من التوبيخ لا أرضى استماعهْ

وإن خالفتني وعصيت قولي** فلا تجزعْ إذا لم تُعْطَ طاعهْ

"Give me advice when I am alone, Avoid giving advice in the midst of a crowd Verily advice among people is an insult which I do not like to listen to. If you disagree and reject my suggestion. So don't be angry if I don't follow your words”

[Diwaan Imam Shafi'i, composed by Muhammad Ibrahim Salim]

We should be careful and introspective, maybe we don't want to advise, but want to humiliate others with our arrogance and passion. Hopefully we are kept away from things like this.

Advice must also be in the form of soft and touching words (this is the original law). Do not let people run away from our advice and da'wah and refuse to accept it.

The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,

ﻳَﺴِّﺮُﻭﺍ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﺗُﻌَﺴِّﺮُﻭﺍ ﻭَﺑَﺸِّﺮُﻭﺍ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﺗُﻨَﻔِّﺮُﻭﺍ

"Make it easy and don't make it difficult, give good news and don't make people run away.(Narrated by Bukhari, Kitabul 'Ilmu no.69)

If our advice is to be accepted, it should be done privately (in this day and age, for example by calling, sending private messages, etc.). Also use soft words because this is more striking.

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The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,

إِنَّ الرِّفْقَ لاَ يَكُونُ فِي شَيْءٍ إِلاَّ زَانَهُ وَلاَ يُنْزَعُ مِنْ شَيْءٍ إِلاَّ شَانَهُ

"Verily, gentleness is not in something but will make it better, and nothing will be taken away from it except that it will make it ugly."[HR. Muslim]

We should still love our fellow Muslims, they are our brothers and sisters in the faith and in Islam.

Allah Ta'ala says,

ﺃَﺷِﺪَّﺁﺀُ ﻋَﻠَﻰ ﺍﻟْﻜُﻔَّﺎﺭِ ﺭُﺣَﻤَﺂﺀُ ﺑَﻴْﻨَﻬُﻢْ

"They are harsh on the disbelievers, but merciful to one another." (Surat al-Fath: 29)

NOTES:

If the mistake made by our brother has been spread and he is the one who spread it, then it is permissible to give public advice to explain that it is wrong, but we only explain the mistake, argue with full etiquette and politeness, not expand to insult and ridicule with insults and insults. insults.

Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih Al-'Utsaimin explained