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The obligation to educate children is an obligation that lies on the shoulders of both parents. This obligation is a very important obligation because it is a mandate that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala bestows on them when Allah bestows sons and daughters, children on them. Which is a deposit from Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala that we must take care of. We must fulfill the trust. The Prophet said in a hadith:

كُلُّ مَوْلُودٍ يُولَدُ عَلَى الفِطْرَةِ ، فَأَبَوَاهُ يُهَوِّدَانِهِ ، أَوْ يُنَصِّرَانِهِ ، أَوْ يُمَجِّسَانِهِ

"Every child is born on his nature (i.e. the nature of Islam, the nature of monotheism) his parents make this child a Jew, a Christian or a Magian."

The Prophet called parents because he was the first cause. Their negligence caused this child to deviate from his nature. When this child was born into the world, he was born with the seal of monotheism Laa Ilaha Illallah which Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala had taken long before they were born into the world, even before their parents were born into the world. That is when Allah brought out the children of Adam's descendants from the sulbi bones of their father, Adam. And Allah bears witness:

أَلَسْتُ بِرَبِّكُمْ ۖ قَالُوا بَلَىٰ ۛ شَهِدْنَا

"They all (humans/children of Adam) testify, 'It is true that we testify'(Surah Al-A'raf [7]: 172)

Including our child who was born. He is one of those who have testified before Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. So he was born carrying the seal of monotheism Laa Ilaha Illallah. And the most important obligation of every parent to their child is to keep this seal from being damaged until it returns to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. It is the most important duty of every father and mother. If they are negligent, he will deviate, the seal will be broken, his aqidah will be dirty, his faith will be broken, he may turn into a Jew, Christian, Magian or whatever. So parents are the closest environment to children. The Prophet said:

فَأَبَوَاهُ

“Both parents”

Not his school, not his friends, not his grandparents, not his aunts and uncles, but his parents. The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam here said his parents. So what happens to children who are the most responsible are parents. Namely father and mother. Therefore, this is an obligation that cannot be done without preparation and knowledge, without us knowing, without learning things related to children's education.

Parents cannot be negligent. Because a sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah family is a family where the members of the individuals in the family can carry out their roles properly and correctly. A husband can be a good husband, a wife can be a good wife, they both carry out their respective rights and obligations. But it is not enough to form a sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah family so that both of them can be good fathers for their children and good mothers for their children.

Many wives / women can be a good wife. She can do her duty to her husband, she can fulfill her husband's rights, but she can't be a good mother, she failed to be a good mother, she can't be a good mother for her children.

And vice versa, there are women who can be good mothers, but can't be good wives for their husbands. So a woman is required to have a dual role here, as a good wife and as a good mother. The difference is of course being a wife and being a mother.

Sometimes some women can not distinguish between his position as a wife and his position as a mother. As a mother, of course, she is a role model for her children. So the wife may be followed by her husband, the husband is an example. But as a mother, she is the one who talks about her children, she is the role model.

Likewise some men / men, he can be a good husband for his wife. He fulfills all his rights and obligations as a husband. There is not a single wife's rights that he does not fulfill, he really becomes an ideal husband. But he could not be a good father to his children.

Of course we are different as husbands with us as fathers. The responsibilities are bigger, the challenges are tougher. Because teaching college kids is different from teaching elementary school kids. It is more difficult to be an elementary school teacher than to be a lecturer teaching lectures to students. Because they are people who have perfect brains, have good reasoning, can understand a little bit of the direction we give. It's like educating a wife. But educating children is like teaching elementary school children, needing patience, needing gentleness, needing politeness and understanding children's point of view, child psychology, so that we can give lessons to children. We are very much different in educating our children and educating our wives. And both of them must be taught. We have to educate our wives, we also have to educate our children.

قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا

"Protect yourself and your family from hellfire.(Surat At-Tahrim [66]: 6)

Or conversely, some men can be good fathers to their children, but he may not be a good husband to his wife. Maybe he is cruel to his wife, has no kindness, has no tolerance for his wife, thus making her suffer. But to the child, he is amazing at being a really good father.

So the sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah family is when this husband and wife can play their roles properly and well in the household. Then a sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah household was created.

Husband educates wife, maybe she can play her own role. Likewise, the wife acts as a wife to her husband. Maybe this is simple and simple, there is no need for other people to interfere in educating our wives. Enough of us, her husband. But educating children cannot be done alone. There are two components, two elements, namely father and mother. And children need both. We need a father figure and we need a mother figure who provides balance and balance in children's education.

So it's true that single parenting can be done, but not ideal. The best thing is, of course, that these two components work well, mom and dad. Children's education is a good collaboration between father and mother, it cannot be handled by one party alone. Therefore, both of them must be able to work together and work together, hand in hand in educating their children, complementing each other, not overlapping. Until sometimes in educating these children there is no clear job description between father and mother. Fathers sometimes overlap in taking on the role of mother, mother too. So there is no good cooperation between the two. So of course in this case husband and wife as father and mother must often sit at one table discussing, having dialogue, exchanging opinions, collecting each other about the education of their children. What is best, what is appropriate to apply to children? Because children come with extraordinary gifts, potential, talents, talents.

Parents should be the ones who understand the most about their children. Not the teacher at school or his friends at school. But sometimes parents and children are not close, so parents do not understand about their children. Of course, this great gift is a blessing for both parents, if they can use it, it will be good for them.

Therefore, the task of educating children is a collective task, not an individual task. It would be hard for a mother if all the education of her children was delegated to her shoulders. On the other hand, the father will feel heavy if all the duties and responsibilities of education are handed over to him, burdened on his shoulders. So in order to be light and to carry, both of them must be able to work together, collaborate, complement each other, of course this will become easier. Because sometimes the strategy needs to be done by both parties, father and mother. Children's education needs a strategy too. How to deal with children so that they are led to what we want. Resolving child problems sometimes requires both sides of this. Point to one point.

So parents should be able to set aside more time to talk about their children's education. And of course this task is a task full of knowledge. If we want any success, then everything must be with knowledge.

So the education of children must also be with knowledge. Sometimes we do not know the aspects of children's education carried out by the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Because of our ignorance. Sometimes we deny that the Prophet did it/applied it in children's education. But because sometimes because of ignorance we are in a hurry to deny it.

If we examine the hadiths of the Prophet related to children's education, it is extraordinary. It could be said that the Prophet was the person who understood the psychology of children the most. When providing education to children, he can see things from the child's point of view, not from the parents' point of view. This is amazing. Later we will find out, in our study, how extraordinary the Prophet was in understanding child psychology. Much greater, greater, higher than the child psychology that is developing today. Even though that was 15 centuries ago, before many sciences were discovered like today.

Therefore -as parentsWe should be more in need of studying, especially those related to children's education. This can not be done self-taught, groping, without knowledge. Because the results will be inconsequential later. Therefore a husband and wife, some brothers and sisters, before getting married diligently study, even met them through the knowledge assembly. There is a "Mak Matchmaker" who brings them together, both active in the science assembly, they meet at the science assembly. But after marriage disappeared from the assembly of knowledge. For various reasons. The reason is now busy, making a living and so on. It's even worse when they have children, the more they disappear from the knowledge assembly.

Before I got married, I was diligent in studying. Even regular studies are attended. After marriage, it has decreased, only tabligh akbar, once/twice a year. After having children, not even tabligh akbar, not all of them. The reason is now busy to provide for the family. This is wrong of course. When we are married, our need for knowledge is doubled. Because our responsibilities are getting bigger. The greater the responsibility, the more our need for knowledge. And the need for knowledge is getting higher.

Source : Radiorodja.com